the work I do...

I work with individuals who are experiencing a wide range of relationship, emotional, and behavioral issues. I offer a personalized approach in a supportive atmosphere to help you attain the growth you're looking for.  

Some of the issues my individual clients deal with are:

  • Relationship problems
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Trauma
  • Grief
  • Life transitions (divorce, job changes, children leaving, aging)
  • Parenting concerns

I provide counseling for couples who are dealing with a many types of relationship issues — communication problems, dealing with conflict, rekindling desire, coping with infidelity and learning to trust again, and everything in between.

Most people aren't thrilled about the idea of seeing a couples counselor; but I provide a welcoming, supportive and understanding environment where you aren't judged. Where you can feel free to talk openly about whatever is on your mind.

Couples sessions revolve around down-to-earth approaches that address and resolve the issues that you bring to therapy. I'll help you identify problems, understand why past efforts may not have been effective, and help you develop alternative solutions. My belief is that having a strong relationship is worth the effort it takes to look at what's going on and making the changes needed so you can have the healthy, loving, relationship you want.

Couples counseling can help you:

  • learn new communication skills
  • increase trust and intimacy
  • recover after an affair
  • learn new ways to manage conflict
  • learn new ways of relating 

Discernment counseling is a structured, short-term type of counseling that was developed by Dr. Bill Dorherty, a well-known relationship therapist and researcher.

The purpose of discernment counseling is to help couples who are considering divorce decide how to move forward when one partner is leaning toward ending the relationship and the other is not. It differs from traditional counseling in that its purpose is not to repair the relationship, but to decide whether to repair it. Three possible outcomes are: to work on repairing the relationship, to move toward divorce, or to stay the course and decide later.

Discernment counseling involves meeting for 1-5 ninety-minute sessions. We'll meet together for part of each session, but the majority of the time I'll meet with you individually. During these one-on-one's, I'll get to understand each of your viewpoints and help you focus on your contribution to the problems and possible solutions. The goal is to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a clearer understanding of your relationship and its future possibilities.

You can learn more about Discernment Counseling and Dr. Bill Doherty's Couples on the Brink Project here.

I provide pre-marital counseling for couples who are considering marriage using the Prepare/Enrich assessment.

The Prepare/Enrich Assessment is an online survey that you take with your partner to help you identify the unique strengths and potential growth areas of your relationship.

This program can help you strengthen communication skills, identify and manage major stressors, deal with conflict, explore family of origin issues, understand and appreciate personality differences, and develop a more balanced relationship.


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